All posts tagged: deception and betrayal

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When ‘Spotting DL Men’ Is Just Stereotyping Masculinity

I have been entertained lately by a woman who keeps showing up in my FYP ranting about dating, men, and whatever else has pissed her off that day. I don’t always agree with her most of the time, but that has sort of been the entertainment of it. Then she posted something that made me go, oh, never mind. You’re wildly off-base. She shared a voice message a man sent her on a dating app. He was soft spoken. That was it. He did not say anything weird, nothing in the message suggested anything about his sexuality, he just had a softer voice. She responded by asking him if he was gay. He said no and asked why she would ask him that. She then proceeded to go into this whole tirade about fathers needing to accept their sons if they come “prancing” up to them saying they like Barbies more than GI Joes, because otherwise they grow up closeted and turn into “raging DL” men who marry women, have children, and then sneak around …